I want to point some of his observations in this post.
Some of the reasons why we live better than at any time in history but never have been so many unhappy people around us are because we forgot to use enthusiasm and gratitude in our lives. A huge problem is that people tend to accept less and less responsibility for anything. Particularly their lives. Showing gratitude is something every spiritual teacher urges us to do. Every time I get up from bed in the morning I listen to meditations by Louise Hay expressing gratitude for myriad things. And more I do it, more things come in my life to be grateful for.
To activate enthusiasm, gratitude, and responsibility, we must activate new feelings and new views that will lead us to physical and mental wellbeing, lead us to the harmony between practical and emotional elements in our lives. This is the only way to avoid being a victim or feeling as being a victim. This is something Eckhart Tolle wrote a lot, warning us to take responsibility for our lives and not let us be victims.
I very much like the quote "Complaining is the black hole in which we lose energy".
The emotion of complaining and feeling as a victim is energetically draining our body energy, leaving us weak and angry or miserable. By complaining, we undermine and depreciate ourselves and prevent us to find a solution to a problem we are facing. We can't see a solution when we are in such vibration.
We are creatures of habits, and habits often provide us with a sense of safety. But habits are very dangerous as more habits we have, harder for us is to change. Habits often prevent us from changing from misery to joy, from poverty thinking to abundance thinking. Why? When we have a habit than any wish to change is foreseen by our ego as a dangerous and negative thing. We tend to stay in the comfort zone, avoiding anything challenging. More we want to change more our ego resists.
So when we have a limiting belief that we have turned into the habit (like complaining), we can't approach aggressively to change it. We have to find a pleasant replacement, something that will be useful and beneficial to us, something that will fulfill us on a personal level.
So whenever we feel a tendency to complain, we have to stop ourselves and ask the question "How can I increase my abilities to overcome this situation?" This brings us to review our competencies. But that is another topic.
